Sibling Bonds

If someone ask my greatest success as a parent, I would choose that all four are the best friends of our children.

As parents, we are committed to our children the best that life has to offer, too often sacrifice the things we need to buy them what they want or need. Tried to create an environment for relaxing and full of love. Take them right from wrong, and hopefully a good example of our daily lives.

With a house full ofChildren have always been a bit 'worried, and one of my big concerns was sibling rivalry. While competition among children can be healthy and are expected little spats here and there, are brothers, a special connection to everything and everyone will survive.

If our children are very young (aged 4:00 to 9:00), I sat on it and says that no matter what happens in life, the link between the four of them the strongest, what they have. To illustrate my point,I sat next to a broom straw, gave each child a piece of straw, and to break them in half. I then asked whether they break easily, their stalks. Nodded his head, not really understanding what it was.

Then I picked up a few individual stems and tied them in a bundle with a ribbon. Again, I asked each child to break the straw in the middle. could try as they might, but not break the bundle of straws. I then pointed out that were just like the straws. Bythemselves, have almost no power and strength as the four of them together. If blocked and supported each other through life, I told them that no one would ever be able to break them.

This little exercise has had a real impact on my children at that time. Of course, they have fought and argued from time to time, do as brothers and sisters. But the four of them linked forever. Today, when nearly adult, it melts my heart when I see them cheering for them,Support and encouragement, and criticize each other constructively.

They also help each other, choose the right friends. It never ceases to amaze me that when a child brings home a new friend that the other does not agree that "friend" will not be around very long. This is usually done in a subtle way so that nobody was hurt, their feelings, but it happens anyway. I find it very reassuring to see how they look at each other's opinions and mutual respect forFeelings.

When my children with strong bonds of love and respect for other approaches adulthood, I find myself still thinking about something. Most often, they are not sure what I'm concerned. Maybe it's the next phase of life that must go through. Maybe it's just part of the mother. In both cases, the concern seems exciting, never quit.

My husband says that I'm not happy if I have something to fear. Who knows? May be right.

All the best,

QueenConcerns