Face it - you have come to be, at least for the next few years! And avoid time with us, our refusal to embrace, and refuses to speak, is not altered. So can the interests of peace and harmony, I will share with you a couple of things you probably do not know, in the hope that help us better tolerated.
1.We are not perfect. We do not have all the answers. We do not know all the questions! But we know that some ofAnswers, we know how those who do not know, and believe it or not find - just like you more now that we knew until a few years, so we are.
It is often said that children do not have a manual and there is no "one-size-fits-all" model of parenting. Every child is different and so is each parent. Together we must find ways to navigate a journey not without timetables and targets.
If you are looking for a "perfect" parents, searchGoing to spend your life in perpetual frustration. And they make this relationship much more difficult than necessary. So if we make a mistake (and us), try to forgive us as we forgive you if you make mistakes. We are both after all, just a human being with weaknesses, limitations and weaknesses. But thank God, we both have individual strengths and characteristics that make us interesting and nice, if we take the time to know each other.
2.We are not cool, but we will be there, I know it seems that we are so in touch with the world. In fact, many of us are likely. You may also see us as boring, with room for humor and laughter. But we were once the rulers of our universe.
We were artistic geniuses, star, virtuoso music, popular cheerleader, cunning Meiern techno-geek, talent managers and opinion leaders. People actually like being around us, sought our advice and go tobrilliant every word that came out of our mouths. There are, your friends, people you admire and people who make ridiculous now.
In short, "cool" is a relative term, whose definition changes with each generation. And as hard as you think for now, one day you can be "cool" is. So we just, we're still trying to figure out how we went so fast on the top of the world for something you want to scrape the bottom of yourShoe!
. 3 We are constantly evolving and growing - it progresses. As we are all a work-in. In every phase of our life we are thrown into situations that we have never experienced. And lest anyone to appear foolish or unprepared, often make the mistake to get away without asking for help from someone who may have taken this path before us.
So we fall, skin their knees, a little cry, and return to the cycling of life. Welive, learn, we affect those around us, we change, we grow (and grow) - an experience at a time.
But hey! They are smarter than us, right? They ask for advice. Do you? You know when you are in unknown territory and ask for help - right? Surely you have learned from our mistakes! (Wow! makes us the best would be if you are responsible for much of his life)!
Fourth do not know how you feel, with you (but we know how it feels to beYour age). Although it was eons ago, we were once your age. (And in fact, not long ago, it seems). And while many things have changed, all the young people of the five major challenges: sex, drugs, alcohol, independence and education.
How to deal with all this business is usually where we run into problems. We are not always joined up approaches to vote for this life-changing decisions. And this is where we ask you to go on one leg a bit 'and haveRely on our experience of life. We walked these paths before, and we learned a few things on the road.
So talk to us! It might actually help to! And we still believe in miracles, I am standing on one leg and I make a prediction - if we see how it feels to YOU, tips only more love, acceptance and more useful than ever imagined. Also, do you have to lose?
Fifth We are not too old to understandLove, sex, and temptation. Yes Virginia, there is love, sex and seduction after high school and college. In fact, unless you have been hiding under a rock lately, you've seen the headlines are full of it! (And also, how do you think here?)
Adults and yes, even parents (including your parents) to feel deep passion and our moral dilemmas. We know the pain of love, the heart of someone who broke. We have all made some stupid decisions on behalflove. We all have things that would make our larger, wiser and more mature also done differently.
We regularly try to throw "the towel and move to Tahiti, Gauguin so pure. But we do not want. Not because we are not into temptation, but because we have a greater blessing in front of our noses - but not only about us !
We Sixth dreams. In each of us is a bigger version of us trying desperately to get out. As part of ourcollective hearts, we are the birth of the great American novel, creating a work of art that moved millions to tears, building an empire that the world is changing, and play the perfect game of golf, basketball or tennis.
Just because women have become, not husbands, mothers and fathers who are dead in our dreams. They may be edited, may well be true, or we can bury under layers of self-flagellation.
But in the inner regionsour mind, the heart of our being - we dream. To stop the dreams, you die. And if we teach you anything else in life, let this message resonates with you - do not always stop a better version of himself. Never give up your dream for themselves. Never stop to think that you do what you really like and want. If God brings a DREAM your soul, then it is also possible to make this dream a reality, but only if you reallyREADY.
7 th to our parents have been misunderstood. Do you have teenagers whose parents do not understand yourself? Au contraire, my friend, wise young man! Your grandparents do not understand, not your parents.
Or you can (and I'm just throwing a theory here) - it is possible that your parents do not understand it, when in fact it is to share your hopes, dreams, inner thoughts, fears and expectations withthem?
Perhaps, if you would take a leadership role and bring your parents, a higher level of understanding, you might actually have more respect, autonomy and control, because you have educated your parents about your motivation, your willingness and ability intelligent decisions . You can actually earn the right to take decisions themselves by earning their respect and trust in you. Try it, you'll be pleasantly surprised!
We really EighthThe winners were to learn some wisdom from our lives. As you know most of you when you were younger, we now know a few things that you do. Such is life. We know from experience, and experience than we have, the more we will learn from them.
And since we are your standards of old, it is logical that in all these years of experience of different life must have had some effect on us. So this proves they are smarter than us.
Taking the initiative to askHelp, ask for advice, and dare I suggest? Ask for our opinion. If the evidence is likely to experience the life of someone of their value, they are showing the qualities of maturity, prudence, modesty and ingenuity to impress any parent.
9 Do not try to control you. We also try to teach, guide, asking for help and for the holes in our ever more. All parents want their children to be lifebetter than them. We are trying to protect you from pain, making it the easiest way to go, and keep you safe and happy. We can not do - it is a set of requirements.
But you know that somehow, right? After all, even if you struggle with them, that you also try to protect their younger siblings (or children of the neighborhood), of the danger. They know that the third party to the playground climbing frame local shoots sharp edges on one side. You know, why did the suitcaseonce and cut my hand.
Your experience of life (there's that word again), it was learned an important lesson that there will now be forced to work with someone else. In fact, you probably have a sense of responsibility and obligation to pass along the knowledge you have acquired. To do less would be to look like someone was consciously evil, have all the time about relevant information that a potential disaster can be avoided. Who could do this? Of course notYOU!
And besides, your parents, can not in good conscience stand by and remain silent when a potential danger lurking in front of them see in your future. You just try to warn you, and even get to stop, if not persuaded to stop himself. And 'their duty.
When you were young, we will not let go down the street without being in any direction. You were taught to draw attention to warning signs. You do exactly the same thing when I have spoken todayin your life. You can call it "butt in" or "invade" but they are only doing what they always did for you - trying to protect us from evil. (Maybe you deserve a hug. Or, you might begin to talk to them again).
10th WE LOVE YOU more than you think. Sometimes our rules and regulations (and the resulting conflicts, they give off), can make you feel that we are interested in things that interest you. Therefore, it isperhaps the feeling that we do not take care of you.
Nothing could be further from the truth! The contrary, we are very keen. We know too much. We have seen, done and experienced too. It took a bit 'scared for your well being.
So sometimes you feel that there are unreasonable, excessive reaction and protection takeover. Sometimes maybe we are (remember the number one? - "We are not perfect").
But the father did not err on the side of caution. MeansThe use of our knowledge, wisdom, life experience and any other weapon in our arsenal to keep safe, healthy and happy. It means that we give you coping strategies for when we are not there to protect you. And that means that no matter what - we still love you and it's getting a piece of our heart that only you are heard.
So do not sleep at night if it hurts our feelings, or if we are worried about your choice and they feel powerless to help. And 'why sometimesreact negatively to pure fear and frustration. That's why we get angry when we do not seem to understand that you get. And that is why often say "No" if asked us to say "Yes". Not because we want to deny things in life than to punish, or for you.
We parents like us, because we love you so much that we want to love you more than you might want today. We want you to be a future that is brighter and happier than you can even imagine. A futureThis is unwise, impulsive or destructive influence decisions. A future that will take away all options. And a future that occasion, the doors open for you to make the dreams that we now know to reach your soul.
As a teenager is not easy. But as a parent is even more difficult. We pray that one day (FAR, far into the future), you experience this for themselves. But now we are waiting for free sex, drugs and alcohol fire. WeTry to help you get a good education, so that there will be more choices for you in life. And we try to give you all the independence you want so desperately to prepare.
But here's a little advice that no one tells you - that independence has a price. It's called ETA '! Nobody gained independence without aging. And we have noticed that older, we become less "cool", you lose what's going on, and usually boring and not funny. SoBe careful what you wish for - you might get more than you wanted! You can become old and irrelevant - as we do!
So now we have found common ground - you think it might finally get the hug?
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